Attention Ben Roethlisberger: Buddy, the rules have changed for you.
There is Big Ben on the field. You know, the one who is the youngest quarterback ever to lead his team to a Super Bowl victory, the one who has one more Super Bowl ring than Peyton Manning, the one who was the Rookie of the Year in 2004; a Pro Bowl quarterback who currently ranks 9th all-time in NFL passer rating (91.7), 5th in yards per attempt (8.01), and 8th in completion percentage (63.29%) among quarterbacks with a minimum of 1500 career attempts. He has the 5th highest winning percentage (.698) as a starter in the regular season among quarterbacks with a minimum of 80 starts. He is among the game’s elite quarterbacks, and was recently rewarded with a contract north of $100 million by one of the classiest organizations in the history of the NFL, the Pittsburgh Steelers. He is 28 years old with the world at his fingertips. Problem is, we seem to have yet another athlete on our hands who appears to believe he can treat women like objects. And of equal importance, lacks the self-awareness to realize that for him, the rules changed months ago.
This is the second time in less than a year that Roethlisberger has been charged with sexual assault, and the third time in his career that a mindless off-field decision has led to questions about his intelligence and maturity.
First there was the near fatal motorcycle accident that threatened to take Ben’s life and career in the summer of 2006 when he was operating his bike at high speed without wearing a helmet, nor possessing a valid motorcycle license. Roethlisberger suffered fractures to the jaw and right sinus cavity, as well as a nine-inch laceration to the back of the head, the loss of two teeth, and several chipped teeth. His facial injuries were severe enough that witnesses on the scene did not immediately recognize him, even after he identified himself. That in and of itself could have been enough for the Steelers to void his contract, or at least punish him severely. They did neither and Ben was back on the field in time for the 2007 season after a remarkable recovery. He spoke about what a “wake-up call” the accident had been, and how he wanted to “make serious changes” moving forward. Useless rhetoric, as it turns out.
Now, to be fair, Ben’s first female accuser appears to me a money hungry “Pro Hoe” Casino Host from Lake Tahoe, who was heard bragging to her co-workers that she had consensual sex with Roethlisberger in July of 2009. She additionally was harboring fantasies about being the mother of Ben’s child, telling the same co-worker that she hoped to “have a little Roethlisberger in me” (too late) while describing the sexual encounter. She appears to be off the reservation, and her public statements killed any credibility she may have had, while eliminating the possibility of any criminal prosecution for Big Ben (suddenly sounds like a porn name).
But here’s the real point: Criminal prosecution or not, Roethilsberger should have recognized that, following the incident in Lake Tahoe, the rules had changed for him. He should have realized that he was not bullet-proof, and that several desperate women wouldn’t hesitate at the chance to expose him, should he give them that chance. Well, this past weekend, once again, Roethlisberger gave another female that very chance. Only this time, it doesn’t appear he’s getting off so easy.
Really, what is this guy thinking? What else needs to happen for him to wake up and realize that he can’t play by the rules that everyone else can? He is a public figure. He is a well-known professional athlete and one of the best quarterbacks in the NFL. Right, wrong, or indifferent, his rules are different than mine or yours; that’s just the reality. And with what has already happened in his life, he’s now playing by a set of even more stringent rules; rules that many of his counterparts don’t even need to adhere to because they don’t carry his baggage. Ever heard of Peyton Manning forcing himself on a female at a bar? No. Tom Brady? No. Drew Brees? No.
Ben opened himself up to scrutiny when the first allegations became public last summer. He should have realized then that coercing 20-year old female college students at a dive bar in Georgia into your VP section with the lure of free drinks and the attraction of hanging with an NFL player simply isn’t something he’s allowed to do anymore because of his past mistakes. How in the world did he allow himself to, once again, fall into this situation, less than a year from the last time he was allegedly assaulting a female? Perhaps he should have thought twice, three times even, before removing the t-shirt from his drawer with a picture of the devil on the front (his wardrobe choice for his night of debauchery). Perhaps he should have pumped the breaks a bit before entering a bathroom in a dive bar with a female while heavily intoxicated. A situation which may, at the most, ultimately lead to the downfall of his career, and at the least, the delineation of his character (if he ever had any).
The investigation is in it’s preliminary stages, so it’s far too early to make a judgement about who’s right and who’s wrong, who’s lying and who’s telling the truth. But again, that’s not the point. The point is until Big Ben pays some real consequences for his juvenile actions, he will continue to engage in behavior that is a black eye for the Steelers, who pride themselves in being a reflection of their blue-collar, pull no punches city, Pittsburgh. As a football fan, I’m hoping he’s innocent, but as a person, if he is indeed guilty, I’m hoping he’s finally forced to face his actions with some serious consequences so he can realize that, this time around, he actually does need to make changes.










































